Comments on: Kids and Their Neverending Wants: Total Ingratitude or Totally Normal? http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/ Where it's always amateur night... Fri, 24 May 2013 16:57:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: IzzyMom http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/#comment-211454 IzzyMom Fri, 25 Nov 2011 07:58:06 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=4290#comment-211454 What I said is that my husband and I are not very materialistic, as in we don't require a lot of material things to be happy. That includes a family vacation this summer which is not a material item. It's an experience. We live in a small house and don't buy or desire fancy or pricey clothing or jewelry, electronics or cars. Our computers are for work. Our iPad is from my husband's job and our theme park passes, also not material items, are an annual gift from the grandparents.. We do pony up for experience-type activities such as sports and scouts and summer camps but we don't buy a lot of "stuff". Hope this clarifies why I don't consider us materialistic. What I said is that my husband and I are not very materialistic, as in we don’t require a lot of material things to be happy. That includes a family vacation this summer which is not a material item. It’s an experience. We live in a small house and don’t buy or desire fancy or pricey clothing or jewelry, electronics or cars. Our computers are for work. Our iPad is from my husband’s job and our theme park passes, also not material items, are an annual gift from the grandparents.. We do pony up for experience-type activities such as sports and scouts and summer camps but we don’t buy a lot of “stuff”. Hope this clarifies why I don’t consider us materialistic.

]]> By: Shannon http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/#comment-211452 Shannon Fri, 25 Nov 2011 04:14:06 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=4290#comment-211452 This might be normal but I don't think it is healthy! Some of these comments indicate that parents are kidding themselves that they actually say no! If reasonable is 10 things and you buy 50 things but your kids ask for 100 things you have said no 50% of the time but still exceeded reasonable 5 times over. The OP suggests this is the case as the lifestyle list of theme parks, gifts, vacations etc is actually very materialistic even though they claim a low consumption lifestyle. Stop and think of what you are taking away from your kids if they don't value anything that they own. This might be normal but I don’t think it is healthy! Some of these comments indicate that parents are kidding themselves that they actually say no! If reasonable is 10 things and you buy 50 things but your kids ask for 100 things you have said no 50% of the time but still exceeded reasonable 5 times over. The OP suggests this is the case as the lifestyle list of theme parks, gifts, vacations etc is actually very materialistic even though they claim a low consumption lifestyle. Stop and think of what you are taking away from your kids if they don’t value anything that they own.

]]> By: the muskrat http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/#comment-210996 the muskrat Tue, 18 Oct 2011 00:30:43 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=4290#comment-210996 That's the rumor. She just showed up at my house after I married her mom. That’s the rumor. She just showed up at my house after I married her mom.

]]> By: IzzyMom http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/#comment-210925 IzzyMom Wed, 28 Sep 2011 23:06:28 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=4290#comment-210925 I'm a big fan of "no" myself but I have to steel myself for the crying and whining that may or may not ensue. (You have a 16 year old??) I’m a big fan of “no” myself but I have to steel myself for the crying and whining that may or may not ensue.

(You have a 16 year old??)

]]> By: the muskrat http://izzymom.com/2011/09/19/kids-and-their-neverending-wants-total-ingratitude-or-totally-normal/#comment-210922 the muskrat Tue, 27 Sep 2011 13:14:27 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=4290#comment-210922 I think this is a good thing for me to read right now, as my 5, 3, and 1 year old aren't really old enough to demand everything they want (or be ingrates yet), and our 16-year-old spent most of her life on the lower middle class end of the scale, so her requests for Christmas, birthdays, etc. are so modest that it almost embarrasses me as the wage earner (she spent most holidays with clothing from the thrift store, for example). Since in the last 2 years, our household income has more than quadrupled, I do worry about the younger 3 becoming demanding brats as they go into elementary school, middle school, etc. I think my disdain for clutter will help--I toss out boxes and boxes of toys and clothes every December to make room for Christmas and create tax deductions. But most helpful is going to be an unapologetic willingness to use the word "no." I think this is a good thing for me to read right now, as my 5, 3, and 1 year old aren’t really old enough to demand everything they want (or be ingrates yet), and our 16-year-old spent most of her life on the lower middle class end of the scale, so her requests for Christmas, birthdays, etc. are so modest that it almost embarrasses me as the wage earner (she spent most holidays with clothing from the thrift store, for example). Since in the last 2 years, our household income has more than quadrupled, I do worry about the younger 3 becoming demanding brats as they go into elementary school, middle school, etc.
I think my disdain for clutter will help–I toss out boxes and boxes of toys and clothes every December to make room for Christmas and create tax deductions. But most helpful is going to be an unapologetic willingness to use the word “no.”

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