Comments on: Besties or Groupsies? http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/ Where it's always amateur night... Sat, 25 May 2013 16:46:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Desert Songbird http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/#comment-197092 Desert Songbird Fri, 09 Jul 2010 22:15:46 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=2305#comment-197092 I think kids are going to gravitate to what comes naturally, regardless of which way we might "lure" or "force" them. My daughter has usually gravitated to the new kids, the underdogs, and the "not-that-popular" crowd. She always wants to make sure that everyone has at least one friend; her group consists of what I call The Gang of Four (the zany one, the funky one, the sweet one, and the smart one). My son has just one good friend. He doesn't seem to be interested in cultivating lots and lots of friendships. Both of my kids are content to be homebodies. My daughter will begin high school next month and will be in marching band, so she'll meet lots of new people. My son is training for his black belt test in the fall; most of his buddies are fellow martial artists. .-= Desert Songbird's last blog post...<a href="http://deserticebox.blogspot.com/2010/07/if-you-thought-i-was-back.html" rel="nofollow">If You Thought I Was Back</a> =-. I think kids are going to gravitate to what comes naturally, regardless of which way we might “lure” or “force” them. My daughter has usually gravitated to the new kids, the underdogs, and the “not-that-popular” crowd. She always wants to make sure that everyone has at least one friend; her group consists of what I call The Gang of Four (the zany one, the funky one, the sweet one, and the smart one). My son has just one good friend. He doesn’t seem to be interested in cultivating lots and lots of friendships. Both of my kids are content to be homebodies. My daughter will begin high school next month and will be in marching band, so she’ll meet lots of new people. My son is training for his black belt test in the fall; most of his buddies are fellow martial artists.
.-= Desert Songbird’s last blog post…If You Thought I Was Back =-.

]]> By: IzzyMom http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/#comment-196237 IzzyMom Sun, 27 Jun 2010 22:55:39 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=2305#comment-196237 In some ways I agree that a friendship coach can be helpful to the socially awkward, being that I, myself, was that way as a kid (particularly in groups) as long as they don't try to make kids be something they're not—but advising kids on what they can do to ease their own discomfort is certainly not a bad thing. In some ways I agree that a friendship coach can be helpful to the socially awkward, being that I, myself, was that way as a kid (particularly in groups) as long as they don’t try to make kids be something they’re not—but advising kids on what they can do to ease their own discomfort is certainly not a bad thing.

]]> By: IzzyMom http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/#comment-196236 IzzyMom Sun, 27 Jun 2010 22:52:16 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=2305#comment-196236 Oh, I agree absolutely where toxic or dangerous relationships are concerned. Oh, I agree absolutely where toxic or dangerous relationships are concerned.

]]> By: Formerly Gracie http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/#comment-196235 Formerly Gracie Sun, 27 Jun 2010 22:41:50 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=2305#comment-196235 I don't think having a "friendship coach" available is an entirely bad idea. My mom is socially awkward, so I really could have used some help in this department growing up... especially when things ebbed rather than flowed. My parents never really understood what the big deal was. Seeing friendships as burdens, they considered it weak and stupid to need others in my life. For an extrovert like me, it was agony to not be active and social. So, I guess it goes both ways. .-= Formerly Gracie's last blog post...<a href="http://formerlygracie.com/2010/06/letter-to-my-20-somthing-self/" rel="nofollow">Letter to My 20-Something Self</a> =-. I don’t think having a “friendship coach” available is an entirely bad idea.

My mom is socially awkward, so I really could have used some help in this department growing up… especially when things ebbed rather than flowed. My parents never really understood what the big deal was. Seeing friendships as burdens, they considered it weak and stupid to need others in my life. For an extrovert like me, it was agony to not be active and social. So, I guess it goes both ways.
.-= Formerly Gracie’s last blog post…Letter to My 20-Something Self =-.

]]> By: Jennifer June http://izzymom.com/2010/06/25/besties-or-groupsies-should-adults-be-tinkering-with-kids-friendships/#comment-196173 Jennifer June Sat, 26 Jun 2010 14:16:11 +0000 http://izzymom.com/?p=2305#comment-196173 Obviously there is a huge invisible disclaimer about toxic relationships and danger and what-have-you but basically I think most things in parenting go like this: Your responsibility is to open doors and provide exposure to as many healthy things people as possible and allow your child the freedom to evolve and make choices based on their own instincts and individual character. .-= Jennifer June's last blog post...<a href="http://theladyslounge.com/give-me-a-break-please" rel="nofollow">Give me a break- please</a> =-. Obviously there is a huge invisible disclaimer about toxic relationships and danger and what-have-you but basically I think most things in parenting go like this:

Your responsibility is to open doors and provide exposure to as many healthy things people as possible and allow your child the freedom to evolve and make choices based on their own instincts and individual character.
.-= Jennifer June’s last blog post…Give me a break- please =-.

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