Comments on: Secrets & Lies

By: thisKat

thisKat — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 19:37:46 +0000

My father’s family wasn’t exactly like yours, but had similar secrets. The fact that your daughter is asking shows how open your heart is to her. I never dared ask my dad where his family was. Somehow, I knew that it was not a good story. Eventually, I did meet his mother and my uncles, and it was good, but the darkness will always be there and there are questions that now, even though I’m 33 and he’s 72, I will never ask. I know enough to not want to know the answers.

By: Izzy

Izzy — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 10:57:34 +0000

Thank you for this :)

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Tue, 22 May 2007 16:16:07 +0000

Can I just share with your that your post brought tears to my eyes because I UNDERSTAND. My situation is different but the result is the same. My mother never did enjoy being a mother to me and we haven’t spoken in a year. She doesn’t want to bother being in my daughter’s life. I have a stepfather who is so crazy and toxic I won’t let him near my kid and my “biological father” is a pain pill addict who’s been married four times and I have 4 half brothers whom I’ve never met. Mother’s Day sucks! Here’s to starting over with what we have, making our friends our family and not comparing ourselves with the Lifetime Movie mommy daughter relationships we see on TV! also, good talking to you the other day. Another reason we need to be friends!

By: Betty aka Waya

Betty aka Waya — Sat, 19 May 2007 10:43:55 +0000

Thanks for sharing this part of your life to us, as painful as it is for you. I’m all for the new tradition of downtime on Mother’s Day!

By: Believer in Balance

Believer in Balance — Fri, 18 May 2007 18:21:04 +0000

I read this post last night and I’ve been thinking about you ever since. I knew I wanted to comment, but everything I start to say, falls short. Although our situations are different, I understand not having the childhood you hoped for and being envious of other families. Now that I’m a mom, I’m giving my children the family life I didn’t have growing up. So, I know you said your little family is all you have on your side, but that’s more than enough. I find that my happy family life now is soothing old wounds. I hope yours does too.