Mad Linky Love with a Side of Assvice on Fearless Friday!
First of all, as part of their virtual baby shower extravaganza, I have some some advice (and assvice) for TB, Liz and Christina, three lovely ladies that are expecting babies in the very near future.
First the assvice…
Don’t try to be quiet for the baby. Let them fall asleep in the middle of your household noise so they get used to it.
I heard that little gem so many times but in my experience, it’s nonsense and just depends on the baby. Some can sleep through a hurricane and others will wake at a pin dropping. Time will definitely tell you which kind of sleeper your baby will be. Roll with it!
But wait! There’s more assvice…
If anyone ever tells you the baby is crying because they sense your tenseness or nervousness, smack the shit out of them immediately. I heard that so many times with my firstborn when they couldn’t explain her crying (HELLO? REFLUX!!) and it’s just wrong to put that kind of trip on a mom, especially if it’s their first baby.
Now? My best nuggets of advice…
First of all, “whatever works” is what you should do. The books don’t know your baby. Trust your instincts and do what works best for you and your baby, not your mother-in-law or anyone else.
Second, when people offer to help you during that postpartum period, take them up on it. Don’t be shy!
And finally, if your baby will allow it (because some just don’t) try to have a bit of a routine that you follow each day. In the beginning it’s hard to get into one because you and the baby are both a little discombobulated but as they settle into life outside the belly, the routine will fall into place and become your best friend and it will also help you find time for yourself.
Congrats and my most heartfelt wishes for all three of you!!! {{Big preggo belly hugs!}}
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Now I want to send a great big shout out and some linky love to two fabulous ladies that answered my call and made it possible for me to meet my goal and finally be able to send my IzzyWig (Café Press Shop) profits to a charity that works to educate about and support women suffering from the evil that is postpartum depression, a terrible disorder that hurts women as well as their babies and families.
Thank you so much Aimee of Greeblemonkey and Megan of Veleveteen Mind for buying MommyBlogger mugs (and Aimee doesn’t even drink coffee!) and helping me over the line.
You guys rock and so do all the other peeps who have made purchases over the last year, many of whose identities I unfortunately don’t know. Thanks ya’ll!
Here’s a screenshot of my receipt for a $25 Paypal donation to Postpartum Support International, a wonderful organization that helps women around the world with PPD and related disorders.
(and I know $25 isn’t some huge sum of money but that’s because each item in the shop is only marked up one itty bitty dollar.)
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And finally, today is Fearless Friday over at Mother-Talk, where tons of wonderful bloggers are sharing their stories of becoming fearless. What an awesome topic! Go have a look.
And you can read my submission, From Fearlessness to Motherhood here. Hope you like it!
PS: Want to know where to get a $250 Prada bag for $79? Check out the upper right sidebar over at Props and Pans
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You’re welcome! Bryan is VERY excited about his new “Mommy Blogger” mug.
You’re good people, lady.
Holy Crap-o-la! You weren’t kidding about the Prada bags. Nice.
I love your HuffPo piece on fearlessness and completely appreciate how motherhood changes everything!!!
What a great story. It’s true how we suddenly go from capable and daring pre-baby to hesitant and down-right frightened post-baby. You nailed it.
great advice + assvice. depends on the baby. hey i’m going to check your flickr + go vote for your blogger’s choice award.
i hope you’ll check out my mother’s day giveaways + if you send me your blog button/badge + url, i’ll add it to my mother’s day blogroll.
please spread the word to moms!
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Thank you Izzy! I’m so all about your “whatever works” advice. In fact I think I’ll start right now, before the baby comes with a variation on the theme “eat whatever you want.” I’m thinking…donuts.
I nearly slapped a stupid physician who suggested Baby Diva’s colic was due to me being tense. I cam even closer to say, “If it seems as if I am tense, that is due to your stupidity.” Luckily someone believed me, too, eventually about the reflux. One day on Zantac, colic vanished.
Great advice. I wish someone had told me about the scheduling, it has been so great with our second daughter.
Thanks for the linky love, Izzy! I was happy to contribute, with your donation in mind. Such a great charity, by the way. I’ll be sure to pass on some more linky love of my own as you continue to raise awareness, particularly if you decide to launch the much hoped-for (okay, by me) “blommy mogger” line! I’ll keep an eye out!
The advice about not being too quiet for the baby’s nap is spot on. I remember that when Ben was an infant I used to put notes on the front door to the effect of, “Shh — baby sleeping; no doorbell, please.” How the UPS man must have hated me.
With Jack I was much more mellow.
And to date Jack is the better sleeper of my two boys.
Bring on the noise, I say.
I’m glad about the money going to PPD research. Far too many women suffer alone, not knowing where to go for help, and sometimes not even knowing there’s a name for the anguish they’re feeling.
nice! thanks for the fearless friday direct too.
Yup, let them get used to lots of noise–you’re so right. And can I say your taste in music is excellent? I’ve been listening to Comfortably Numb all week for some reason. :)
I just hate it when others, although well-meaning, say ignorant things like “he/she can feel your tension…”
Sheesh!
You gave excellent assvice, though!
“assvice”– that’s great
Do I want to ask/know what the difference between ADvice and ASSvice is?
As usual, thanks for your no bullshit advice. I was traumatized with my first baby due to “you’re too anxious’” comments. Now I know that if all’s well physically (ie no reflux, stomach trouble etc) , the little ones are usually quite happy if they’re just in physical contact with me. I strap them into a sling and they usually babble away…. whether or not i’m anxious.
Ugh. That whole “let the baby sleep in the middle of chaos” thing used to drive me nuts. Yeah, my kid sleeps best when it’s dark and quiet. Key word: sleeps. I think I’ll keep the shades shut and the noise down, thankyouverymuch.
hi there,
i posted the blogroll to my site: The Eating Disorder Survivors Club: http://www.edsurvivorsclub.blogspot.com
just let me know if there is anything else I have to do and when I am all set up and included in this great blogroll and community you’ve started.
Thanks,
Em
hope this message finds its way to you.
i posted the link/blogroll on my site:
The Eating Disorder Survivors Club.
let me know if you need me to do anything else. thanks.
Great advice, Izzy!