Apparently St. Paul schools are cracking down on dirty dancing (aka freak dancing) at school dances. I’m curious to know what you all think about this.
Now don’t get me wrong. I think freak dancing and all it entails is pretty gross and tasteless and I would probably have a friggin’ cow if my daughter was doing it and I saw it. But…that said, people have been dancing suggestively for ages and this is really nothing new.
Part of me thinks it might be the lesser of two evils for teens to test boundaries on the dance floor in the gym than in some other unsupervised situation. I mean sure, there should definitely be some limits set and I think some frank discussions are in order about why certain things are inappropriate but banning dances? I just think teens respond better to open and honest communication than the iron fist approach.
I know, I know….dancing is dangerous because it leads to SEX!!! And yes, the driving beats of the music are just a metaphor for the pelvic thrusting of intercourse. Mmmhmm. I know ALL about the evils of dancing. I’ve seen Footloose.
I’m kidding. KIDDING!!!!!
Seriously though, I may not be a psychologist but I do remember what it was like to be a teenager and testing those waters myself, albeit in a different manner. When I would go on vacation and visit my best friend, she and I would dress up in some sexaay duds, sneak out after her parents went to bed and use fake ID’s to get into these clubs where they didn’t care how hokey our ID’s were. We were about 16 or 17 and way out of our league, thinking we were some hot shit on a stick.
But hello? High school girls in bars when the parents thought they were safely tucked away in bed? That’s stupid AND dangerous. The semi-controlled environment of a school dance seems downright safe in comparison. I may be way off base but I just find it hard to get too worked up over dancing, particularly when these kids are not to blame. I prefer to save my ire for the bigger issues at work here.
And to be honest, I was going to end this post right here and forgo the soapbox but seeing as I’ve pledged to be true to myself whilst blogging, I’m going to forge ahead and get my rant on.
So where was I? Oh yes…the kids are not to blame. I mean they have their noses rubbed in sexual imagery from childhood on and then we go and sexualize our little girls and then we give them numerous forms of media that are saturated with sexual content and imagery of the most base variety, as well as all manner of negative gender stereotyping and then when they freak dance, we call foul? What the hell did we EXPECT them to turn out like? Nuns and monks? They’re simply products of their environment and you can’t really fault them for that.
But it isn’t too late for the next generation. And with that, I challenge everyone to speak up the next time you see something that makes you say WTF??? Use your voice. Be heard! Edited to Add: And for the love of Emilio Estevez…TALK to your kids BEFORE they get to his point. Explain the concept of self-respect and give them relevant examples. If you don’t, who will?
Okay…I’m done with the soapbox. Now it’s your turn. What do you think about the banning of school dances in Minnesota (and now in California)?
(And it’s okay if you disagree with me, as I fully expect many of you will, but please read the article(s) before debating the issue(s)
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