Let My Kid be a Kid, Dammit!

Posted by on June 29, 2006

While I’m pretty easygoing about a lot of things, anyone who has read my blog for a while knows I have a few, uh, issues that consistently raise my hackles. One of them is how the world has no regard for the fact that I am raising a CHILD. A child that I want to REMAIN a child for a little longer. I mean she’s barely six, for chrissakes. I’m not ready for her to to be assimilated into the hypermature world of slutty celebrities, hoochie skank clothing at Limited, Too (which, incidentally, is owned by Victoria’s Secret) and oral sex in the back of the school bus. I want her to have a childhood. Is that SO MUCH to ask???

I’m not 100% sure if I’m premenstrual or what but feeling like a raw nerve on a windy day has made today a little difficult. Things are really…pissing me off. More than they should. But I think I was well within my rights to get angry today and the store manager on duty at my local Publix grocery store agreed.

It all started in the hated snacks aisle. I mean the snacks are fine. It’s the magazine rack across from the snacks that always bothers me. Maybe it’s just me, but strolling down the aisle having my daughter at eye level with FHM, Lowrider, Maximand other publications of that ilk really pisses me off. This is a grocery store, not Barnes & Noble or Borders. This is a place where people and their children shop day in and day out. I just feel like I shouldn’t have to worry about crap like that. I reiterate…she’s not quite six years old. Does she really need to be exposed to what basically amounts to softcore porn at the GROCERY STORE???? It just seems like there was a time when people cared that something might be inappropriate for children but seriously, nobody gives a shit anymore and if you’re raising kids, girls in particular, and you’re not in a coma, you know it’s true.

Not only are girls conditioned to believe that being a human toothpick will make them better, more desirable people (eating disorder anyone?), but they’re also being conditioned to believe that their worth is in their body and sexuality and this saddens me in addition to really chafing my ass because it’s the absolute antithesis of everything I want for her. And today was the day I (and my PMS) decided I’d had enough.

While walking down the snack aisle and trying, as usual, to get my daughter to focus on the junk food instead of the sleazy magazines, I took note of this (it wasn’t this exact cover but one similar) and I just lost it. I grabbed a copy, rolled it up, stuck it down in the cart where TQ couldn’t see it and stormed up to the service desk. I asked for a manager and tried to remain calm while I waited. A woman manager emerged from the office and a torrent of words came rushing out of my mouth as I held up the magazine for her to see.

I basically said that I was sick and tired of dealing with this and how am I supposed to explain this kind of stuff to my 5 yr old and why should I have to when all I want to do is grocery shop and who generates more revenue in this store? Families with children or the random guys who stand around and read magazines?

She said she was going to show the magazines to the head honcho manager and relay my complaints and I was sure to ask her to ask him for me how he would feel for his wife and kids to have to shop with that shit right in their faces. The manager agreed wholeheartedly and dispatched someone to remove all the magazines. I didn’t expect or ask her to remove the magazines. I just wanted my voice to be heard. But still, that small victory felt good and frankly, I don’t know why I waited so long. I hope they follow through and do the right thing and that this wasn’t just lip service because I don’t intend to forget about this. (And Publix should take note that Wild Oats is just as close to my house and doesn’t stock that kind of stuff)

And if my daughter ever sounds like this, I’ll probably just throw in the towel and step in front of a bus.

“But when we go out, we do everything together – drinking, dancing, going to the bathroom, even vomiting.”

WTF?

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7/17/2006 EDITED TO ADD:

I feel I should clarify for anyone who should happen along that I do not advocate censorship but with the power to create media comes a responsibility. To just send it out into the world with no regard for who is on the receiving end is socially irresponsible. Yes, you have the RIGHT to put anything out there that you want but stores and publishers need to realize that whether the law mandates it or not, they have a responsibility to society.

The law is sympathetic to the right to free speech but in practice, there are so many other considerations and though I hardly expect corporations to give a crap about those considerations, I also cannot see the harm in taking some voluntary responsibility for what is and isn’t appropriate for younger eyes when they choose what to openly display in their stores.

It’s not about denying anyone their right to non-kid friendly material. You can have it. I don’t care. But when it comes to young kids, I have to draw a line.

It may be hard to imagine but I used to not see the world this way. When I had no kids, the world, to me, was an adult place and everyone should just adapt to our adult preferences. But as a parent, I realize that an adult-centric view of the world simply doesn’t work. Adults aren’t the only inhabitants of the universe and thus they shouldn’t be the sole centers of it any more than children should be. We’re all in it together…


85 Comments

  • mrsmogul says:

    this subject was on the news in England yesterday! It was all about the govt taking the “lads mags” off the bottom shelves and putting them on the top shelves so children can’t see. It this what I will have to be faced with?

  • Kristen says:

    Yeah. That’s messed up. I have to say that Doug gets FHM – for free -and I toss it RIGHT in the trash. He doesn’t even read and I don’t want it laying around the house.

  • tori says:

    Wow! Don’t you feel powerful now? Awesome! I will have to try that at our grocery store (which I don’t normally bring my kids to mostly for that very reason.)

  • J. says:

    Here, here!
    For me, it’s the clothes. And this summer, finding a normal tank-style bathing suit for my daughter was a real chore. Izzy, they’re all flippin’ bikinis! WITH PADDING! What the hell? Who puts their ten year old in those? Gah!!!

  • I don’t get it either. When I was a child, those mags were ALWAYS on the top shelf, stuck WAY behind everything else so that the only people who saw them were the men who were buying them.

    So far we’re still shopping at Gymboree, thankfully. No Limited Too yet. I suppose I should count my blessings that all Tacy wants to do is mismatch everything and drag clothes out of the hamper to wear them for the fourth time.

  • GOOD FOR YOU! I am so glad that you talked to them and thrilled (although a little surprised) that they acted so quickly. Now I am all riled up and want to go lash into my grocery store for the same thing. Wish me luck.

    I still remember the time my son said loudly to me in the grocery line “Mom what’s Sex?” Um pardon? “That magazine says the word so many times all over the front. What is it?” Great. Oh and he was 4 at the time.

  • Amy says:

    Good for you, Izzy! Iagree whole-heartedly, and my daughter is only two. BUt I don’t get putting toddlers in bikinis, for example. And those make-over places at the mall for 8 year olds? Way to teach your daughters: “hey, don’t accomplish anything, just look pretty. That’s what really matters!”
    Now *I’m* going to vomit.

  • Very awesome. Maybe between the two of us we can cover all the grocery stores in our area. Now if we can just get rid of the alien spaceship on top of that strip joint on Dale Mabry.

  • jennster says:

    totally not in a magazine topic, whore celebrity way- but why do i feel like the only mom who doesn’t let her kid watch MOST pg-13 and rated R movies?!?!?!! people say i’m sheltering him. and i say there’s just NO need for him to see these things RIGHT NOW. why the fuck does he need to watch this shit NOW?!?!! and why, in gods name, are all of his friends?!?!?!!

  • Izzy says:

    Shit! I’ve been meaning to get back to you but between my illin chilluns, my PMS from hell (my period arrived right after I wrote this post) and fighting smut, I plum forgot. So to answer your question, my Friday is wide open. Where are you taking me? :)

  • Izzy says:

    Dude…that’s totally the same topic. And I’m with ya. I know a lot of people who let their young kids see PG and PG-13 movies and I so don’t get it.

    As we all know, it’s MUCH easier to just let kids do whatever they want but I feel like telling them to stop being such lazyasses and and be a fricken parent for a change. Grrr….

  • Mrs. Chicky says:

    You are my hero! I’m seriously thinking of putting your likeness on a t-shirt with a red cape and fantastic boots and selling them to all my friends. Super Smut-Fighting Mama! You rock!

  • shpprgrl says:

    Good for you! There is so much ickk on those racks. I have fought to keep my 9 year old young. She’s worn seersucker and smocked dresses forever. She does wear some fashionable L2 stuff now, because she’s older. I’m very particular and DO.NOT go for that prostitute look. No way. There are so many moms that don’t make it a priority. They are only young once.

  • Christina says:

    I really hate those magazines. There is no point to them except to play to men’s fantasies and objectify women. While they have the freedom to publish them, I don’t think they need to place them in areas that children frequent. Good for you!

  • Kel says:

    It’s not just girls, but boys as well. I certianly don’t need my 2 boys looking at those pictures. That doesn’t give them a good view of girls either. I don’t want my 2 boys to grow up thinking the only women they should be interested in is a toothpick with big boobs.

  • Mrs. Davis says:

    Like Kel said, I’m trying to keep my boys from getting to much of this, too. I hate for them to see women portrayed the way they are on so many of those covers. My MIL got us a subscrition to Vanity Fair last year (ugh!) and every month we have to tear off the cover and/or hide it because it’s some sexed-up celeb on there. What family with little kids has time to read Vanity Fair?!?

  • supa says:

    Wow, Izzy. Go you. As I was reading, I expected the management to give you a lot more shit than they did. Way to speak your mind and take some action. You’re an inspiration for the rest of us to speak up, too. (And not just about magazine covers).

  • jennster says:

    i truly think that having older siblings has something to do with it. if you have an older one, it’s harder to control what your younger one is exposed too?? i don’t know. i just don’t see the reasoning behind letting your young kid see things they have no business seeing, much less CAN’T understand and grasp the concept of the plot, etc… i don’t care if people judge me for sheltering him. i just think i’m letting him be a kid. cause that’s what he fucking is. lol

  • Tony says:

    Wow!! I’m impressed!!
    Totally agree, what happened to the days of cheesy “Weekly World News” covers with Elvis?
    Although I like the pictures (duh? I’m still a guy) I don’t want that stuff out in the open anywhere where kids are around –even at open magazine racks in bookstores. (That’s usually where all the jr high boys hangout looking at the softporn ‘big guy’ mags)

  • So, um, I guess you’re not too wild about Bratz dolls? :)

  • Izzy says:

    No way! I love them! For target practice, that is ;-P

  • xun says:

    I do not see what the fuss is about. Come on, this is a real world. Will baby no longer be a baby if they saw some women products? I do not think so.

  • Good for you! I am SO proud of you. If I see magazines like that at my store, I’m totally saying something. I usually avoid that aisle, but in the junk food aisle? Come on! That is awesome! And I totally understand about raising girls. I have a 5 year old and a baby girl and my 5- year old is at that awkward age where it’s so hard to buy clothing because everything is either too little girly or slut-monger. I’m so glad she has school uniforms next year!

  • Izzy says:

    I wasn’t discussing “women’s products” Try re-reading the post.

    In any case, your cavalier attitude is, in my opinion, very naive.

    I suspect you might feel differently when it’s your little girl that wants to emulate someone like Christina Aguilera or any of those very classy cover models — or I at least hope you would.

  • I_A_I says:

    You know, I was all pissy when Wal-Mart refused to carry “those” mags – gave me another reason to hate the evil corporate entity (that whole oppressor of free speech thing). But I agree that those soft-core smut mags do not need to be by the check-out aisle. Good for you for addressing it!
    And that link at the end? With the friends? Holy.Shit. What in the Hell has happened to young women today? I’m serious (even though I sound like an old biddy) … is there no self respect anymore? What’s with all the flaunting of well, trashiness? Much like those drunk daddy princesses on Girls Gone Wild videos … the ones that BEG to get on video. WTF?
    And don’t even get me started on the sluttifying of girls at an ungodly early age … infant creepers with words on the ass, size 3 shoes with heels, midriff baring tops with “sexy” on the front for a toddler.
    Society sucks. I’m going back to my hole …

  • Maniacal says:

    OMG I didn’t even see that you quoted that one line, till I read it…..but that’s the one that stuck out. HA they even vomit together. How cute….I hope all the guys find that so appealing……..

  • Sue says:

    Reason #237 that I chose not to have kids. I would lose my mind if I had to take the kiddos to the mall with 12-foot high semi naked Victoria’s Secret posters in the windows. Body image is so haaaaaard anyway and all this stuff just makes it harder.

  • WTF indeed.

    You go, warrior Izzy! We should all be doing the same in our own grocery sotres in our own towns.

  • Heather says:

    Good for you! I couldn’t agree more about ether issue- the self respect for girls (and boys being taught to respect girls as more than objects) and the “when the hell did this become okay with the world!” part as well.

    And dude! That was in a grocery store? I hear grocery stores in the States have way more variety than us, but I’d have never expected that! Even in most convenience stores here I think those magazines are closer to the top shelf!

  • Lisa B says:

    I read the interview with these two girls. OH MY GOD! If I were their moms and read this, I would throw myself in front of a damn bus. I don’t care how you look, it is criminal to be this stupid.

  • I used to write for um, porn. once i interviewed one um, girls and asked her “what was sexy?” she thought for a minute and then she answered, “vegetables.” She was a vegan after all so I guess it made sense. I asked the same girl what her biggest regret was and it was “that i didn’t start writing down my dreams at an earlier age.” THEN I asked her what her last dream was and she thought for another minute and then said, “I have no idea.”

    Um… Beavis?

  • Mom101 says:

    Just another perspective – when we were kids we were allowed to look at whatever was in the house. Which included the dusty stack of playboys in the basement. When my 7 year old brother’s friend stumbled across them, and said, “dontcha wanna look?” My brother shrugged and said, “eh, I’ve seen it.” I think age appropriate discussions about that stuff can work miracles. You’re a great mom and I sense your daughter will be “conditioned” by you more than anything else.

    On the other hand, when my kid’s six, I reserve the right to change my opinion entirely.

  • Mom101 says:

    This is freaking hysterical, Rebecca.

  • cmhl says:

    I agree– why not let them just be innocent and KIDS while they are just that– kids…

  • Wager Witch says:

    You’re not off your rocker or PMS’ing…

    Things are definetely geared towards a male society.

    If you haven’t read The Davinci Code (which, while it is fiction – and is a big upsetter to the churches —-even though it is fiction—) you might want to wade through it.

    I found it interesting that the male society took over from the female society – and in turn the perception of females changed drastically. I researched it a bit – and found it to be especially true.

    Then… strange thing… I noticed that all the clothing designers – and all the make up artists – and the high fashion photographers…

    well…

    they’re all GAY MEN

    (Nothing wrong with gay men, in my book – or anything…. just keep following my train of thought here and you’ll understand)

    So Gay men are interpreting what they think is “beautiful” and the country is devouring it.

    You have skinny “androgynous” models who could – with just the right touches of make up and clothing – pass for males (No curves – stronger features – height – etc.)

    And we’re being told that – that look is beautiful…

    Our children are being taught that this is the expectation.

    Well – it’s truly a long discussion – but wanted to say – I don’t mind the magazines – I mind the advertising that makes people feel as if they are not adequate.

    I hate that our children are exposed to the expectations so young.

    Nudity is beautiful – but I’ve been trying to teach my child the difference between reality and fantasy – and to have such “perfect” models in nudity – she will never be able to match up – or come close… and that is sad.

    Thanks for your rant… I’ve been clicking through and reading your site for the last month – on Blogclicker – but never had one of your topics bite me like this one did. LOL!

  • Karen Rani says:

    Ugh. It is the same thing here, in certain stores. I grabbed an entire rack of Maxims and slammed them on the counter at 7-11 once, when Dylan was 3 or 4. The guy was stunned when I told him I wouldn’t shop in a place where they keep this filth at a child’s eye level. BUT AT THE GROCERY STORE???? Oh my, shit would be hitting the fans. Dude. You are awesome for speaking up! High fives!

  • Heather says:

    I did almost the exact same thing at our local convenience store, where the magazines are right where you pay and my daughters are in there about once a week. I wasn’t as successful as you though. They just brushed me off and the magazines are still there. Grrr.

  • Chag says:

    So this is why I couldn’t pick up a copy of Maxim at the store today!

    The clothes these kids wear get to me more than anything. I hate to think what will be in fashion 5-10 years from now (when I’ll have to start worrying).

  • Terri says:

    good for you! If more people would speak up we could change the world!

  • Amy says:

    ACK to those two girls! I’m glad you said something. That was really over the line. I hate how porn has become so mainstream. How is a little girl supposed to avoid being sexualized? It is awful.

  • Marcie says:

    Good for You!
    The two girls interviewed were disturbing.

  • Jill says:

    Good For You!!!! Most of the time, I shop at Whole Foods and Trader Joes to avoid the nonsense at our local chain markets.

    Jill
    Co-Founder, Silicon Valley Moms Blog

  • Sue says:

    Beautiful. “I have no idea.”

  • Sue says:

    I think the comment, through bad grammar, became more accurate. “Women products” – because those women on the magazine covers ARE products, not people.

  • Izzy says:

    lol true…and apparently they’re perfectly suitable for my five year old “baby”

    *dripping with sarcasm*

  • fidget says:

    This is something i have totally not understood… Publix has those plastic shields to hide the roughest part of the magazine cover.. but only in the checkout isle. The magazine isle is rife with boobs and ass and anorexia. I HATE having to pick up pretzles or chips or planters when the kids are with me. Mira ineviably yells and points “She has big boobies mama”

  • Izzy says:

    I agree, nudity is beautiful. I have no hang-ups about that at all. But, as I know you understand, this is about something that cuts much deeper and has such far-reaching implications. Great comment!

  • Jenna says:

    A local (SE Ohio) supermarket (where we only go for meat because everything else is ridiculously overpriced) puts a piece of laminated white paper over the fronts of magazines that are “racy,” with an explanation that says while they won’t censor by not selling a magazine in their store, they do want to protect those who wish not to view such material. It took them awhile to come up with that and I think it’s pretty darn good. Of course, I always have to look at the ones that are blocked off with the paper to figure out why. I’m silly. ;)

  • Jenna says:

    PS – Oral sex by seventh graders in the back of a school bus was in my hometown at my old school. GAH!

  • Jill says:

    just found your blog – via blox explosion and it’s great… thanks!

  • GOOD.FOR.YOU Izzy!! I’m giving you a standing ovation right now while typing this. My eyes almost popped out of their sockets as I click over to see the cover of that magazine. Holy naked Batman! Uh, hullo, that’s softcore porn to me.

    It’s a good thing my daughter is only 16 months old, so by the time she’s old enough to ask “why are those people naked Mommy?!” All those slizy mags will be out of grocery stores. You’re my hero Izzy!!

  • Good for you for taking a stand!

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  • mamatulip says:

    GOOD. FOR. YOU.

    You are my hero.

  • chris says:

    Hurray for you! That stuff gets me so angry. I want my children to be children and my boys, I have six of ‘em, to grow up without distorted images of female sexuality.

    And whoever it was who commented above about being the only mother who doesn’t allow PG13 or R movies, you aren’t alone. I have allowed only a handful of PG13 movies and that was after I watched them. But you know what, it makes me angry that I have to preview them. I’m talking about movies that are marketed to the well under 13 set.

  • onetallmomma says:

    This is comment, what, 56! You will never even read this. This is my first time here. What an awesome post.

    Protecting our young children from popular culture is often “poo-pooed” by many. There will be time enough for them to make there own judgments and choices when they are teenagers.

    And I have to tell you a Wild Oats story. Several years ago Mothering Magazine published a pic of a breast feeding babe on the cover. A tiny bite of nipple was showering, It was a beautiful picture. A woman complained to the management at our local store that the picture had upset her 9 year old son. The store had all of the copies of the issue removed.

    A nurse-in resulted. The manager apologized. The local LLL group received 5% of the profits from a “donation” day.

    It all depends on what filter you are using.

  • badgermama says:

    I feel the same way about Glamour, Cosmo, Self, all the diet and fashion mags in the grocery display. They suck. However, I feel okay about explaining that they are this thing called “SEXIST CRAP” to my 6 year old son. We need to give our kids tools and language for critical thinking – not try to insulate them and protect them to the extreme.

    Because we can’t protect them every minute and then when the protection fails they will not have any ammo (critical, thinking, mental ammo) to protect themselves.

  • Anne says:

    I feel the same way whenever we go into the evil empire (Rogers Video), and larger grocery stores. Children are exposed to way to much information. Raising your voice about objectionable material does change teh world. good on you. Anne

  • Karla says:

    I completely and totally agree with you 100%

  • I am laughing out loud at badgermama’s comment, because it’s perfect. I’m not a mama yet, but I can just hear myself in about 7 years: “Max, this is called ‘sexist crap’,” very matter-of-factly.

    Izzy, you have inspired me. The next time I see kid-eye-level smut, I’m speaking to the store manager about it.

  • Stephanie A. says:

    There’s a time and a place for all of that stuff and it is called college.

    That’s exactly how I feel about so many things in society. It isn’t necessarily bad or wrong and I don’t care if my neighbors are porn stars or bankers or if people smoke pot. But I’m so with you about being FORCED to flaunt these things in front of our children. It’s the freaking grocery store.

    I’m so proud of you and your victory! Keep us updated as to the status of the snack aisle!

  • Wow. Good for you for speaking up! I can’t believe they actually removed the magazines. You’ll have to let us know if they’re back next time you visit. And if they are, be sure to raise hell again and tell us all about it.

  • ghandi rules says:

    I love that you went and ranted. These type of magazines should be on the top part of the rack and in the back. But of course they want the T and A up front to attract the nitwits.
    I don’t know how I feel about girls seeing this stuff. This has partly to do with the fact that I have nary a child. Do you think every little girl gets the impressions your concerned about when they have great moms like the lot of you?
    As a child I was effected by some things out in the world that weren’t so possitive but many things slid right off my back because of the positive influences in my home. (ok so there wasn’t a lot of positive influences in our home but enough to prevent me from becoming a hooker).
    I can’t imagine a child raised by a strong woman such as yourself, being told of her true worth would take the worlds dumbshit to heart. But that’s just me. Talk amoungst yourselves..

  • wrigley says:

    i agree with you. every parent has the right to get angry at this stuff. it’s so hard to explain to kids nowadays that they don’t have to look like ‘that’ to be loved.

  • Izzy says:

    I really don’t know if every little girl gets those impressions or if they would all be affected the same way. What I do know is that cumulatively, a lifetime of absorbing typical American popular culture will definitely provide a girl with false and wholly unrealistic ideals in terms of body image and sexuality.

    Children use what’s around them as their guide to what’s normal and acceptable. As an extreme example, if I took two 6 yr olds and let one only watch PBS and let the other on watch MTV for a year, I think at the end of the year, you would have two children with very different outlooks on life and one would be much more “mature” in ways that I’m not ready for my chiild to be.

    I can’t predict the future but frankly, I’m not willing to take that chance. The point that a lot of people miss is that I’m not talking about just my child and her well-being. I’m talking about an entire culture that has changed dramatically in the past 25 years.

    Essentially, I’m not opposed to that kind of material existing. I just want children to not have to deal with it just yet.

    But thank you for saying I’m a good mom. I really try :-)

  • Tori says:

    Babe
    I feel your pain. I have four potential Aguilara’s in the making. It is virtually impossible to shield them. Believe me I try.
    Also find teenagers you really like and ask their parents how they did it! I have surrounded my girls with ‘good teens’….
    Most say – keep in busy in group sports, dance, water sports, church group or similar….
    Give them no time to feel they might be missing out on some teen smut….
    I also discuss these “icons” with the ladies. We talk about whether we think their outfits are “appropriate”. They love being the skirt and outfit police.
    And Izzy – you know you are just going to have to lead by example and get rid of that leather thong and those thigh high boots.

  • Tori says:

    OMG – I made so many spelling errors above…
    …it should say Most parents (of good teenagers) say keep them busy….
    And when I said I discuss female icons with the ladies, I meant the little ladies (ie the girls), not my mom friends….
    Wow – how totally insane I sounded…..

  • Nancy says:

    Good for you. I am trying to shield my girls from the negative images of women as much as possible where I can — and educate them where I can’t. I want to focus on teaching them to find their own self-esteem from within, so they are more resistant to those types of images. Sadly, I see the negative images becoming more and more pervasive, so I fear it’s a losing battle. But what I can control, I will.

  • Tracie says:

    Go IzzyMom!!
    I am suprised that they accually pulled the magazines….I am interested to see what they do long-term with them. I’m sure that lots of mothers have thought about complaining, but figured it wouldn’t do any good-and you proved them wrong. I have a dughter, and I want her to be able to grow up without being constantly bombarded with messages contrary to what I am trying to instill in her (at least while we are at the grocery store!)

  • kittenpie says:

    god, that interview you linked was at once totally hilarious and wildly depressing. And you’re so right about the crap pushed into our daughters’ faces and heads. I hope mine’s a tomboy. I’m loving that she right now wants to wear dresses, but pairs tem with a hardhat. (Actually I’m about to post about that)

  • Allysun says:

    Gosh, doesn’t it feel SO GOOD to complain and get the validation you sought? You are awesome.

    It’s too bad that it takes PMS to tip us over the edge and get something done about the shit that really matters… I swear, I owe my PMS a huge THANK YOU for giving me the courage to get pissed and LOUD when I really need it. Sometimes (don’t tell anyone) I secretly like PMSing because I feel so much stronger than I am in my “regular” life.

    I worry a lot about how to protect my daughter…

  • MInTheGap says:

    I’m definitely with you on everything being sexed up. I have boys, and it’s even hard when you start thinking that they’re getting old enough to wonder why women are dressing like that– and expecting them to be.

  • Jenny says:

    Good for you! I actually have a subscription to Maxim (it’s prety darn witty at times) but I would never want Hailey to see it. My whole life is a double-standard.

  • krista says:

    I’m totally with you Chicky. Keep up the good work Izzy.

  • krista says:

    Haha, oh GGC, the more I learn about you, the more I like you.

  • krista says:

    Exactly. You know, as a mom of boys I admit I am guilty of sometimes letting stuff like that slide. But it is just as important to shelter boys from that stuff than it is to shelter girls. Or if not shelter, explain. Educate.

  • Arabella says:

    I totally sympathize with where you’re coming from; with all due respect, though, I would take a different approach. I’ve posted about it on my blog today (7/17). That said, I do not have children myself and do not really know what it’s like to confront the Maxim tits at the checkout counter (or the sugar-laden treats, either). You sound like a very good mom to me.

  • Arabella says:

    BTW, I agree wholeheartedly with your recently-added point about social responsibility. Well said.

  • Hippie Mama says:

    You are totally awesome. You are my hero! You are absolutely right. And I don’t think removing those kinds of publications from a child’s eye view is censorship. Censorship would be, say, if the government was like, no more boobie mags! Asking the management to move them is just asking them to exercise responsible business practices, and to cater to their customers.

  • carrie says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! Our local market had an FHM mag right above the Nickelodeon mags and I nearly lost it as one of my boys was standing there, looking for his Spongebob and got sight of the bare ass of the model on the cover. Hello! How hard is it to put it up high, where kids can’t reach it??????

    You’ve given me inspiration to do something about it if I see it again. I’m all for non-censorship, but I’m also a big fan of common sense and responsible advertising.

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